My closest friend Karen lost her husband Kenny to cancer about 8 weeks ago, being there for her while still allowing her plenty of space has been a bit of a challenge. We spent the evening together last night, we did art night for the first time since Kenny got sick, for so many years it was part of our weekly routine.
I told Karen about David’s new job and about his new schedule, she wasn’t really in the mood to be extra supportive, the conversation just kind of drifted across the table as we were both focused on what we were painting. She did look up for a minute though, when I mentioned that the shift in schedule had me pretty out of sorts and that maybe it was time to consider moving on.
She abruptly said “Move on to what? Going online and to singles dances like Becky?” I replied “Absolutly not” “OK then” she said as we both went back to what we were doing. That was supportive enough for the moment. Of course it’s not time to move on, it’s just time to make some adjustments.
Actually last Tuesday was our first night, Paulette was there too but we did not paint even though we did intend to. Last night however … we actually put color on paper, good for us. Next week we will drum.
I told Karen about David’s new job and about his new schedule, she wasn’t really in the mood to be extra supportive, the conversation just kind of drifted across the table as we were both focused on what we were painting. She did look up for a minute though, when I mentioned that the shift in schedule had me pretty out of sorts and that maybe it was time to consider moving on.
She abruptly said “Move on to what? Going online and to singles dances like Becky?” I replied “Absolutly not” “OK then” she said as we both went back to what we were doing. That was supportive enough for the moment. Of course it’s not time to move on, it’s just time to make some adjustments.
I did not take any photos last night but the one above is from an art night years ago ... always interesting that even when we are basically painting the same thing, we get two totally different results. Large one is Karens, small one is mine.
2 comments:
love the paintings.....
My condolences to your friend. sometimes we get stuck in our own stuff and we don't see beyond our own hurt and suffering. Be patient with her eventually she will arise from the fog of grief.
Peace, have a blessed week
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